Should I feel this guilty?

Question:

I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday...
I gave him a long list of reasons
I have no connection
but I feel like shit
he keeps telling me that he doesn’t know what he’s goanna do
I figure its prolly just cuz its his first relationship....
but I feel really bad about it...I wanted it to be super gentle but it
wasn’t at all.... the breakup took a couple hours on its own....
he keeps calling me and arguing the breakup
and i just don’t know what to say anymore

Answer:

First off good for you for breaking up with someone with whom you don’t want to be with. That in and of itself takes a lot of guts! If you didn’t have a connection with him it was better for both of you to end it sooner rather than later. Of course I suspect that you already knew that.
You did the right thing, you gave him reasons and with that a good explanation for him to work on and better himself. That was the best way to break up with him.
Expect to feel like shit. A change even one such as leaving a relationship you didn’t want to be in is a change and a loss. There are patterns and routines that have been broken and they take time to heal and sort themselves out. It’s also hard when your ex boyfriend is being manipulative and co dependant even after the relationship is over.
He keeps calling you and arguing the break up. Know what you do? Tell him to stop calling then hang up on him. Every time you talk to him, you are giving him a little glimmer of hope that you will take him back.
He is not your problem anymore. Tell him that, and mean it. Then stop talking to him. It is that simple yet so hard. Just remember why you broke up with him and as politely as possible remind him a few more times. Set a limit and once that limit is reached do not answer your phone, emails, or IM’s from him. Make it clear and wish him the best of luck.
You’re only other choice is to be strong and firm in your convictions and stop talking to him now, or keep playing his poor me game until he finds someone else in his life.

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